Is This What Dating in 2025 Has to Look Like?
You add her on social media or maybe she slides into your DMs.
You start to think every notification is from her and race to check them.
Then you text and message each other back and forth, sharing what you think of each other.
Then you start hooking up with each other... but you both stare at your phones when you go out on dates.
“We couldn’t communicate in person because we had built the relationship online.”
Does this sound familiar? If you like a girl, take the time to interact with her in REAL LIFE. It’s hard to build a relationship with someone you never speak to in person. Ask her out so you can get to know the real her―and she can get to know the real you, too!
• Get to know the real her as a friend first. Do things in a group setting, in person. Allow her to get to know the real you, too!
• Don’t take any relationship to the next step over text. To have a real relationship, you need to
have clear communication in person. The best way to escape the gray area of “talking” or “hanging out” is to talk about things in person. This means clearly communicating about when you’re just friends, when you’re getting to know each other better, and when you’re dating. Clear is kind, even if it’s hard and feelings could get hurt. Be kind to her and yourself.
• If you’re interested in being exclusive with a girl, ask her out on a date in person. Talk to her about moving from seeing each other to dating. Define mutual expectations with her.
• Take things slow. You’re both still developing as young adults. Don’t rush into physical and emotional intimacy. Allow things to progress slowly so you can both get to know the real person you’re dating. And keep both her and your future success in mind.