Dating Decoded
Have you started dating are you ready to start dating?
Here’s some things you should know about guys:
Guys find self-respect attractive! Know your value and stick to your convictions.
Guys will wait to have sex if you will. The players won’t stick around once they realize you’re serious, but the best guys will! Those are the ones worth investing your time, energy, and heart into.
Dating Do’s & Dont’s
Do:
Do get to know each other as friends first. Talk in person. Do group activities with some friends.
Do stay with the group, especially if you don’t know the person well or if you met online.
Do take things slow. You’re still high schoolers, and neither of you are looking to get married yet. Keep things a little more casual and take it slow, physically and emotionally.
Do trust your instincts. If you sense something isn’t right, get out of the situation. If you’re scared for your safety, call 911.
Don’t:
Don’t take any relationship to the next step over text. The best way to escape the gray area of “talking” or “hanging out” is to talk in person about when you're just friends, when you're getting to know each other better, and when you're dating. Clear is kind.
Don’t tolerate a guy who violates your personal boundaries. If he doesn’t respond when you tell him to stop, leave the situation.
Don’t accept beverages from people you don’t know and don’t drink out of anything you’ve left unattended. “Date rape drugs” can be slipped into your drink when you’re not paying attention or without you even realizing it.
Really Want a Boyfriend?
Dating and relationships can be overwhelming and all-consuming in our minds. Figuring out relationships starts with figuring yourself out. What characteristics do you want in an ideal boyfriend? Strive to develop those characteristics in yourself, and you’ll find you may attract a guy with what you’re looking for.
Getting mixed signals from your crush? What should you do?
How Does He Act Towards You?
DOES HE...
Flirt with other girls?
Speak to you unkindly?
Speak unkindly about you to his friends?
Get irritated when you ask him questions?
These are red flags. You can find someone better!
DOES HE...
Sit quietly sometimes?
Not talk as much?
He may have days when he is tired, shy, or still trying to figure out how he feels. Guys don’t have hormone changes like girls do, but their emotions and energy levels do fluctuate.
Don’t force the relationship. When people try to rush relationships, they risk ending that relationship. Sometimes, they even end the friendship. Talk to him, hang out in group settings, and get to know him naturally.
Be a good friend – ask him kind questions!
Don’t pressure him – give him some time and respect his space.
Make sure you are taking care of yourself – whether he wants to be a boyfriend or not, YOU CAN LIVE WITH PURPOSE and have an amazing life!